So, the past came back to haunt me with a vengence this weekend.
While I was away, some guild drama raised its ugly head and I was only able to deal with it peripherally. I trust my officers, though, and it seemed to me that they did a good job of dealing with things and making sure the aggrieved parties were satisfied. At least, that’s how it seemed to me at my distant remove up in the tarry wastelands.
I won’t go into the gory details, but like many high-profile, high-drama issues it was based on misunderstandings cause by a lack of commincation and an overabundance of petty emotions like selfishness and jealousy. It took me the better part of the afternoon to talk some sense into the parties invloved. I was upset to see some of the people using petty techniques to evoke sympathy as a way to distract attention from their poor behaviour. I was on the other hand very please to see the accused party behaving very rationally and very generously. Nothing makes a false accuser look worse than when you graciously apologise.
As if that wasn’t eenough, the Drama Rama weekend continued into Monday. One of my officers has spent the better part of the last year dealing with various health and family issues, as well as personal inclinations and with all those things combined has managed to raid with us maybe once every other month. He is online maybe once a week for an hour or so and has in the end contributed to the guild very little. This is partially not his fault, and in the past when his life was more settled he was a very active member and leader, so we were happy to see him when he could be on, but we didn’t count him into our active plans and preparations for Wrath, because his time commitment to the guild was so unreliable.
As part of our plans for Wrath we divided the classes into two groups and assigned each group to an officer. They will oversee those classes as they gear and gem and enchant and raid until Wrath, and then do all the forum homework and legwork and research and keep on top of what’s what with those classes as we get into WotLK and head to 80. The class that my disgruntled officer plays was assigned to another officer, and that was what caused the fallout. My unhappy officer refused to take any direction or adivce ever (even though none was offered) from the officer who had been chosen to oversee his class and resigned in both protest and poutiness.
Now, I could see if the appointed officer went to the upset one and said “lol u suck. lrn2play n00b” or some nonsense like that. But no one did. My ex-officer is very competant and very good at his class, and does well enough with his spec and gear, even though it’s not the ideal raiding one. No one has any issues with the way he plays. The thing is he didn’t even enter my mind when I was dividing up the classes, because he’s just never around. His life is so unsettled that he can’t make any firm time commitments, and while I don’t hold that against him in any way shape or form, the bottom line is I can assign duties to him and expect them to be done. I just can’t.
It’s not been an overly fun weekend for me. I’ve been upset and tired and dealing with all this childishness and not been really able to enjoy my game. I havn’t even had the enthusiasm to play Horde as an escape and my mind has been in such turmoil that I havn’t been able to even get my thoughts in order enough to blog properly. I’m angry at these three people, my two raiders and my ex-officer for being so selfish and so immature and putting my guild through so much trouble. And I’m frustrated with people in general for being so damn self-centered.
I know that you will find impossible and selfish people wherever you are. Azeroth feels like an escape, like a fantasy wonderland some days, but it’s not. Not really. It’s just a microcosm, a small but representative subset of the people and personality types you will find in the world at large.
Doesn’t mean I have to like dealing with them.